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Common in Chile. Going to just go, yeah. What about some other things like some difference that it

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might be a little bit because of the field that I'm in. So we all have our talk about your feelings and if

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there's an issue with somebody, you go from that and you talk and be assertive and all that. But that's something that Kusto much

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I think it has to be because of what I do. But also, I find that here it's more. You're able to do that interiorly kind of play.

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You just get mad about it and you don't talk about it. Yeah, they don't like what she's dead and don't say a thing.

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Or if you say it is like, you know, this sense will be almost like a conflict there. So that, that's something that I

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find that it's easier to do. He and I will be talking about boundaries and of course I'm talking about 20 years ago so

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that Beckwith be different now. But that's something that it was defend the same thing with the parenting style.

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I've hands never hit me, buy more like the discipline was saying that they guilt trip. If you don't do that and they kind of like

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mom's going to be so sad because and so you're like, oh, I'm going to make mug sad. So I have to do it.

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So kind of like that does sort of finger, you know, that and I think it's gray that now

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that I'm doing this pairing, think glasses, I can see that that owe them to that. Like when they tell me like what I told you,

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not a good kid because Like, why do you think it'll make him think about what you're doing there to leave you good or bad.

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I'm not like they they behaviors the bad one known to the person. So that's sort of things that I had remembering what's ingest in my family.

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It was also like in general, is including my teachers to two and that sort of thing. Kind of like if you're a

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good girl or whatever. But I know that some of the things that changed a lot more open

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to to work on that point of being assertive and q and not something just to say it. And and also, why will flake?

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Accepting people did not like you gaze? Which is like not even a question that I'd like to discuss that and now that precedent that

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we have now she had done a lot for that too. So that's good. Steps data. It's good to know that, you know that that's what they are now.

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More negative way of like women's rights and k's right and that sort of things that out before, especially with, you know,

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with a dictatorship that, that was totally like out of the question. Can, you know, you're supposed to be this way and that's the way it was

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really like the way the country was. That it was military style. That was the order and that's what you're supposed to do.

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So I imagine that the changes that once that he was how everybody wanted to say, what they wanted to say and everybody's demanding.

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You know, it's like, well, same thing that's happening now. Anybody want that problem to be solved? And if it takes some time,

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we can just fix anything at this, you know, like right away in a couple of months. So I think that

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was something that happened to with, with the change from a dictatorship to democracy. Did you're just following on that comment.

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Did your parents or your family actually have they said how things have changed hopefully for the

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better and sensitive to the ship. Again, absolutely. Yes. We're including my brother. My brother is gay, so he's so happy

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that finally there's the steel, there's some things, you know, like that. More, um, uh, something like Johnson, those sort of things.

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But it's almost like Don't Ask, Don't Tell kind of thing. But at least it's a little progress in there. But definitely that, you know,

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just being able to to speak freely within your way of thinking if you agree or you don't want to listen with what's going on.

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And there are so many years that 73 and then make all these generation, that's all they knew. So they grew up.

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And that, that's the way it is. Thinking, that that's the way it is and all. It's a change and you allowed to do these things,

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ages that have been. But they definitely said that things have improved a lot in not

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just in terms of what they can be enabled to express how you're thinking and you know, what you want. It's also in terms

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of what people say well to, to do, to accomplish. Good. Gosh, yeah. I think I'm quoting here,

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but I feel like this is definitely a good thing or a good amount of information to work with. So this is exactly

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what I wanted to talk to you. Actually, we did. Could you just explain on camera why the confidentiality in terms

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of likelihood to get any pictures of the outside. Okay. Yeah. Okay. Yes.

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Yeah. Case. Well, one of the policies that we have in the shelter

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that has to be kept confidential and location because women, they come here to a shelter that trying to find a safe place until they

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take you of the legal issues and safe for them to go back and and finding housing, we'll go back to their home. So that's one of the reasons that

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we would need to not allow pictures Southside they have for anything, they would disclose their location

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on the shelter because, you know, that will put people in jeopardy. We don't want anybody to showing up here knocking

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other boards that can happen sometimes. Perfect. I mean, do you have any last questions or when you go?

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I mean, I feel Let's do that. Yeah. Let me do you have anything else you'd like to share?

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It's so interesting. Just hearing about, I mean, everything that especially from coming from last semester and hearing all

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about your profession and your work here, and then hearing the background that it's I felt her in with a lot of what child

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does and they're looking at this women's shelter. And I'm going to share with the video TO and it's

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just to see like That was just my perception of you. This is where she is now, this is what she's doing, that's great.

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But then there's so much more below at all. And it's amazing that, you know, it's good. Because when you when you send me that he said thank him.

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In the past, had been thinking about that. There were certain things that happened in my life like breaking into my house and I was in a car,

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ads it in two and said my casual happen and, you know, thank a couple of things that thanks. My husband got laid off from work.

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It was just like one thing often anatomists like every Mth, I'm like I'm scared to think about things that might happen.

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And I start thinking a little bit about how's handling. Like kind of like, you know, you need to think about like okay,

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how my handling the situation right now. And that's when I start thinking about NYC. Hello, I'm strong and thinking with it coming from, you know,

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and and it's funny to talk about my husband, but my husband's face thinks in a different way. You kind of like he, he, he's attitudes.

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Are we going to move out, move somewhere else because it's not safe anymore. Like we have the minute you show me where you're going to

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be buying another house, like by the next day. And you know, how you approach things in a different way and

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same thing with, you know, being laid off and said, Well, he's been a kid, Hey, we're like six month ban.

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You should get a job in whatever whatever comes first, killing, clicking on the link. But I said yes, because you know what?

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That will be additional income. We can pay credit card, Somebody will be all good with that, you know, that kind of thing, sag

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that doing whatever it takes to get there. And it was just like I said, thinking about that, I like, you know, that's that's my thinking

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that you have to adjust. Other things are and here's something that I remember from my parents when my,

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you know, my dad no working. My mom was the only one working. How quickly they the scientists need to be adjusted

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to expenses and those sort of things. And I remember my mom because they think arch is set so that we

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don't need to be buying that anymore. Still on the sign was done drinking these powder thing. And and but now we'll say, you know,

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cutting until things that is death and that really led to big because I don't remember that the impact my pants,

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I think that I call my God. My birthday, that here they thing was like the worst one because they didn't have enough money in.

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It's funny because they thought that for years until one time was that talking I said the birthday present that I always

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remember is they want then they thinking was the worst. And it was a bag that I had those CPT book I think was

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the dive and a frank a lot. So yeah. Appropriate to I got that. And I had Who's psychic.

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Couple of little things in the binding. Secondly, needs that like my stamp with my name. Oh my God. You know, when you're a kid and you

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see that in g of a wow, that was there. And so like cheap, That's tough that the CAD and

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I'll always remember like one of my birthday present, the best one. It was that yeah. But they thought they

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wanted they Wilson that great because the money was tight. And they managed to do that. You need to know,

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make it make the impact. That tends to be that big. And when my husband got laid off already said thinking,

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alright, so we would need to cut this. And there's a minister thinking of that night, he thinks that we don't really need,

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what can we do, Let's exchange of doing that. So it was all in my head, like always plan if we needed to get through that, we didn't bad.

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I had a plan already, my hand like right away. And that was the first thing I thought. I remember my mom cutting and

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those things that you don't need to tool and that's all that I said. I learned that from you because my dad and we the way we communicate now it's

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emails and they call me usually Monday, so Tuesdays they call me. But they may also secrete things so we can do that all the time,

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emailing back and forth. They can't now they can email them to in and my dad was asking something about, you know, to date

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or know how I can be so strong. And I said, thank you asking me that I guess I get it from. And a third writing data that I

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remember seeing my mom doing all this thing. And you did everything that he took to, you know, to continue supporting the family. And so I thought maybe all these things

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and they were like, Oh, okay. Yeah, that's right. So, you know, I think it was good for them to hear that too.

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You know, all that. It pays back when you see your kid. They're actually doing bad. So hopefully one day I'm going to make it

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for dealing with things like that way too. And that's something that I was taught to them, that kids can bounce back pretty easily.

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And it's amazing you're right when you say parents, don't always know what there are other actions are going

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to impact their kids later on. I mean, the little things like you so then you pick up on it and you keep with you forever.

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That's great. Awesome. Yeah, I want to get pictures of things here real quick.

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That was looking at that picture. That's something that I missed that getting together. Yeah, that's that's a beautiful plate.

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Yeah. Just moving on. This is where you post to the beach telling me he's like, so great because it was like, you know what,

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I can 15 minutes I could be at the beach in during the wintertime was just great. Go with a coat in here that touches on to say hour and a half and then thought,

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I can go for the day. I didn't even go to the the overcooking I was working. Yeah. And and then need to work no.

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Like being taken time off or anything like that. Yeah. Then I decided that

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really make it worth I had to go and spend the night there. Well, now you know how to load up and coffee and that sort of thing.

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Yeah. But, you know, now just like okay. How do how do you feel that our beaches compare to try in the fixer driving? I stop like every five minutes

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and I was like, Okay, we need to stop this. Like stopping every five minutes. We'd never going to make it to San Francisco.

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It was just like we said, driving like, Oh my goodness you that you remember this looks like blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

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Okay, Let's look around and take some pictures and some tweaking to click on the rocks and dust. So I think that yes though,

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that it's so exciting that it was really be able to reminisce site. And the town is kind of like San Francisco with the heels and high.

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Yeah.